Ep. 2: Expectancy
ON THIS EPISODE:
Today we introduce a few new segments, talk about lowering our expectations, point out what’s good and holy this week and... you don’t want to miss “Deep Dive With Dave” this week as we talk about why we should be mimicking thermostats.
- 'The Girl Chronicles' by Hillary Grantham & Morgan Hansow
- The FIND (our Family Travel Show)
- Catch Some Air
- Chirps Chips
Good News Video that Dave mentioned of Kristine & Brianna!
I’m Morgan Hansow and this is my husband, Dave - we’ve spent the last 20 years on a wild adventure that’s taken us to Africa, the Oprah show, and Hollywood.
Welcome to Chasing Unicorns… a podcast about giving ourselves permission to chase our dreams, explore our faith, and figure out who we are, all while trying to keep our crap together!
As Creatives, Humanitarians, and Parents, we’ve learned (sometimes the hard way) that the hustle and pursuit of the elusive unicorn will never satisfy.
Each week we’ll explore what it looks like to live authentic, passionate, and connected lives while being a part of a movement that’s trying to transform the world through story + grace.
Overview of today’s show -
Dave: Hi! And welcome to episode 2 of Chasing Unicorns… Before we continue, we just want to take a minute and thank everyone who listened to the debut episode last week and then took the time to connect with us.
Morgan: Yes! We got voice memos, texts, emails, posts, phone-calls and face-to-face encouragement from so many of you. We can’t tell you how good it feels to know that what we’re sharing and talking about is resonating with you as our audience! Thank you for all the love!
Dave: Yes! On today’s show we’re gonna introduce a few new segments, talk about lowering our expectations, point out what’s good and holy this week, and you don’t want to miss my “Deep Dive” this week - I’m gonna talk about why we should be mimicking thermostats.
Introduce a New Segment - GOOD NEWS - splices of what’s going right in the world
Even though it’s psychologically proven that we’re ‘hardwired’ to respond to bad news, we think it’s our mandate to be people who point out out the beauty and truth in the world wherever we see it
Dave: So... our friends Kristene and Brianna Tesaro, who are sisters, have this crazy story of overcoming cancer and then giving their lives to making sure other kids who are going through treatment don’t have to feel alone. As they say “ they help kids feel happy when they feel crappy”
So anyway… they started this thing called a “dream list” where one by one they have done these incredible things. And this week I heard about them helping a little girl named Gracie who wanted a complete makeover, got her an enormous limo to ride in and then went in and did a photoshoot for Nordstroms, which was also on her dream list as well as a in-store fashion show for Nordstroms.
There is this fantastic video online that we’ll embed on the Chasing Unicorns site and we’ll share it to the FB group.
Morgan - https://chirpschips.com/
Home (Office) Huddle -
Talk about what’s surfacing in our current pursuits as a Husband/Wife entrepreneurial duo
For us this week, it’s all about EXPECTATION VS. EXPECTANCY
Over and over again (pretty much daily), we’re having to realign our focal point and make sure we’re living in a state of EXPECTANCY
As opposed to living with specific expectations
We lived long enough and experienced enough life to know that rarely does life play out to meet our expectations.
In fact, we’ve seen that we’ve ended up living in places we said we’d “never” live AND we’ve had things fall through that we felt were a sure-fire
AND we’ve ended up on some pretty crazy adventures that we NEVER saw coming because it wasn’t even on our radar
So what’s the difference?
Expectation: a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future OR a strong belief that someone will or should achieve something.
Expectancy: the state of thinking or hoping that something, especially something pleasant, will happen or be the case.
The real kicker is the sample sentences listed in the dictionary with these definitions: "reality had not lived up to expectations" VS “they waited with an air of expectancy"
We’ve always had these great dreams and expectations around our travel show, The FIND, and over the years we can probably count 5 or 6 promising opportunities or connections that felt like those ‘expectations’ for the show would become a reality. We travelled to Hollywood for one and a couple years later to LA for another and the rest were phone-calls, email connections, or skype meet-ups.
And Guess What??? … none of them panned out!
Nope, we made some great connections and each time they just didn’t work out.
Morgan: And it was harder for me since I was the one that was usually spearheading the communication. I’d be really bummed and that would lead me to that headspace where I’d build a story in my head that ALL opportunities we encounter aren’t going to pan out - and it’s what’s lead to the lie I talked about last week in Episode 1 where I said “I’m bound to a life of ‘almosts’ Babe - why do you think it’s easier for you? Do you just live with lowered expectations? Oh my gosh, whenever I hear that… http://www.poprewind.com/90s-moments-you-forgot-lowered-expectations/
Morgan: And yet, we are finding ourselves back in that spot of making space for the unknown. In this last month we were contacted by two different men who work and/or have experience in the Entertainment/television world for The FIND and so much of myself wants suppress the hope because of past experience but I’m realizing that we actually need the spirit of expectancy - we need to get our hopes up but not have them be tied to specific outcomes…
Dave: Yes, that’s it - it’s about living out of a posture of being filled with hope for the future because we know who we are and whose we are - without making it dependent on specifics. Almost like leaving room for the mystery - like Morgan said earlier, most of the life-changing opportunities/experiences we’ve had came because we had released some of our control and expectations and what we got in return was WAY more than we could have planned or orchestrated if we held on
Morgan: Yes!!! And thinking back, most of those ‘breatkthroughs’ came when we had surrendered a certain ideal or expectation of what our life or circumstances should look like and/or took a risk. Ha! It’s kind of like God’s in the business of blowing our minds when we’re willing to trust Him - actually that reminds me of that verse in Ephesians...He is able to do immeasurably more than we ask or imagine
Dave: Totally and I will add that our ability to see those times as ‘breakthroughs’ or significant didn’t come until later. A lot of those were realized in hindsight looking back.
Morgan: That’s true! So...raise a glass to living in a state of expectancy!
The FIND - Advertisement
Most of you know that for the past few years we’ve been travelling the world as a family telling the most incredible stories of people who are changing the world. But what you may not have known is that although the show plays on TV Networks around the world, you can actually sit down with your family and watch all 15 episodes of The FIND for free online at www.thefindshow.com
We actually sat down as a family last night and watched a bit. Which I know sounds kinda weird. But we watched an episode from India, laughed at ourselves, and to be honest… were once again inspired and moved.
So… if you need some good news, want a fun and inspiring show for you or the whole fam. Go check it out at thefindshow.com
Holy Moments -
segment where we reflect, reminisce and remember the most ‘Holy’ moment of our last week.
Share your Holy Moment #holymoments
Segment - Morganization - I like order and especially working from home, it’s hard for me to feel productive when our space is getting cramped. In this new segment, we’re going to check in with Morgan on a project from her never-ending ‘to-do’ list and help bring some accountability (and sanity to our home)
Morgan: Yeah, as a recovering perfectionist I tend to get stuck - I won’t do something half-ass, so I’ll leave projects on my to-do list until I can do them 100% (Dave: And it stresses you out if I try to do move a pile or help so I’ve learned to just live with it) - that’s honest! And truth be told, I end up with all these piles of papers awaiting organization or unfinished projects awaiting completion b/c I’m waiting for the time to do them. So we thought that surely, I’m not the only one who needs some permission (or outside accountability) to tackle a project. Okay, Babe...so what will it be first?
Dave: how about that furry ottoman project that’s been sitting in the same place in our bedroom for almost 5 months?
We received a ton of Comments and Feedback last week from so many you…
Justin from Colorado said: “Just finished Chasing Unicorns, WELL DONE!!! I love Ready Player One, there was so much depth behind that movie. I loved that you ended with the word of the day. I Just realized that I could list every topic you discussed and tell you that I loved it, fantastic!”
Erich from Ontario, Canada wrote: “Just listened to the first episode of Chasing Unicorns! Loved it! The positivity, the genuine exploration of your lives, fears, joys, and all. Thanks for continuing to do such groovy work in the world!
Patrick from Colorado called in and said “Play quote”
Amara from Canada wrote in the Facebook group: “Just had a listen to the first podcast and I can't wait for more!!.... I love your transparency, vulnerability and letting us into your world. Highly recommend listening!”
Also have LOVED all the pictures and texts and messages about those of you who ordered the children’s book I helped write and talked about on Episode 1 - The Girl Chronicles - it’s SO fun to see the images of girls reading the book and to hear about the conversations that have been sparked as a result! www.BeadsofGood.org
Dave: We would love to hear from you this week. What are your thoughts on Expectantcy vs Expectations? Do you need some accountability with getting some stuff done? Write us about that thing you’re gonna commit to doing this week.
Morgan: Or maybe you have a topic you’d like to hear us cover? What about a person you’d like us to interview? Or just give us some feedback about Chasing Unicorns in general. We would love to hear from you
Go to: ChasingUnicornsPodcast.com - record an audio message
OR send us an email at ChasingUnicornsPodcast@gmail.com
On The Screen This week…
The Secret World Of Lewis Carroll
Reverend Charles Dodgson, better known as Lewis Carroll.
Lost in Space - Netflix
Deep Dive with Dave
Thermostat vs Thermometer
Page 88 - Heavy Rain - Read portion
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Brought to you By
“Today’s show has been brought to you by the word “Expectancy” - keep taking risks and following after your dreams but give yourself permission to drop your expectations and live life with an air of expectancy!
“Until next week...keep embracing the mystery, asking questions, and giving yourself permission to enjoy the process. And watch out for those freakin’ unicorns...they’re glitzy and shimmery and full of crap!” ;)